Consider the orchid: such a huge and diverse family, yet each type an exquisite, unique expression!
Did you know that an orchid seed cannot break open by itself, but needs a fungus to germinate and sustain the seedling? Only those seeds that land upon a fungal “mother” will receive the necessary breaking down, which allows its amazing beauty to come forth.
What might the orchid think, given the rot and decay of its cradle? That it drew the short straw? That other plants got a better experience? That it can never move beyond being nurtured by a parasite?
And yet despite the dank atmosphere of its womb, the orchid arises pristine, glorious, rare.
And so it is with us all, coming forth from the whole spectrum of beginnings. All it takes is the joining of a sperm and an egg, a womb in which to develop, and… Voila! A human being!
While the history and circumstances of our parents deeply influence how we are introduced to the world, a cushy beginning isn’t a requirement for creating a meaningful life. Like the orchid, we each bring rare beauty and unique potentials to the world. Rather than being a permanent handicap, rough beginnings inspire us to grow beyond our history. Painful roots are the impetus to both personal and collective evolution.
In Family Constellation work, a beautiful acknowledgement to the representative of a parent is saying: “You gave me my life and that’s a lot. Now I can take it from here.” Our parents’ greatest gift was to bring us to life. There is tremendous freedom and relief when we truly let that be enough.
We all have mixed feelings about our families – let’s face it, most parents are still trying to figure things out for themselves, when they are suddenly saddled with a tiny, helpless, completely uneducated seedling needing 24/7 care. But no matter how troubled your own family might have been, here you are! Uniquely wonderful, and always a work in progress.
If you are having trouble appreciating any aspects of yourself or your world and would like to join a weekly zoom group to explore, appreciate and transform those rough edges we all share, there are a few spaces available on either Wednesday evenings or Friday mornings. Email or call me for information at firstname.lastname@example.org or 604-671-7863.
You are unique in the world. Thank you for being here!