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You may already be groaning at the phrase about kindness – thinking what a pathetic word to use in the midst of all the suffering you or those you care about may be experiencing. But the little process we are about to do can create a shift – or help bridge a divide – from the isolation and suffering of pain into a more spacious sense of connection and compassion.
When we relate to our pain as a solid “thing” standing in our way, we are creating a sense of division within ourselves. This part of our experience becomes unacceptable, wrong and something to be fought against. But consider for a moment, that the pain or suffering you are feeling isn’t something so hard and fast, but is instead a bridge itself; a pathway to a larger, more whole experience of yourself and your life. Perhaps in ways you never even contemplated!
When we find ways to perceive beyond the limiting definitions of our pain, when we begin to see through to a different possibility for ourselves, we start to quicken our healing process. We start to see and feel what’s on the other side of our distress and in so doing, begin to create new, larger stories, where our pain served as an integral stimulus towards our healing journey.
The beauty of a resonant homeopathic remedy is that it automatically inspires a new, larger story of your wholeness; however even without a remedy, you can lay your own groundwork for change. For those who are sceptical, just try and suspend your intellectual thoughts as you read or listen to this and receive it more like a daydream; there is nothing to prove or disprove, simply receive it as an imaginative dream removed from your normal perception of reality.
As a homeopath and teacher who, just like you, also lives in a physical body, my own inner receptivity to new stories continues to be a powerful personal tool, as well as one I make good use of in helping others discover their deeper truths and riches.
I hope you enjoy listening to this and perhaps discover some new possibilities for yourself!
This process will need 5-10 uninterrupted minutes so don’t do this if you are distracted or expecting an interruption. And particularly don’t do it while driving any type of vehicle! You can read through the text first or simply listen – whatever works best for you.
Sit down comfortably and close your eyes. Turn your attention inside yourself – inside your body. Notice whatever you might be experiencing. Notice any physical sensations; any emotions that are present. Perhaps even notice the quality of your energy. Don’t try and change anything, just become aware of whatever is going on inside yourself. It can be quite amazing: we have a whole universe of activity happening within ourselves, below the awareness of our conscious mind. So take your time, just attune yourself to whatever is happening in this inner world.
Now notice your breath. What is it like? Shallow or deep? Quick or slow? Again, don’t change anything and don’t judge, just become aware. Be open to allowing your body to reveal itself to you by being very receptive, very non-judgmental. We are so quick to be hard on ourselves; this is the opportunity to simply get to know the kind of set points you tend to automatically operate from.
Continue to just be open, receptive and curious about whatever you are experiencing within yourself.
Once you have truly opened your awareness to your current status quo, and are consciously keeping yourself from trying to muscle it into something else, just notice what happens as you simply accept your present moment. As you stop trying to “do,” and instead just sit and receive the impression of what is happening in this now. Just sit in an attitude of receptivity for a few more breaths, present to whatever is going on within, without trying to change it, without judging it, without buying into any feeling that anything should be different than what you are experiencing right now.
You may notice that there are some subtle shifts, simply in your present awareness and acceptance. If so, just be with those – and if nothing is changing, then be with that, again free of judgment. There is no right or wrong here. This is about accepting this present moment; and this one; and this one; in whatever way it is.
As you sit with this awareness, you may notice a tendency for judgment or negative thoughts to start creeping in. We all are programmed to certain stories about ourselves; you may begin to notice some of yours. If so, be curious and aware, but don’t buy into them; just watch them like a movie –and notice how natural they seem to feel; how easily you slip into them. You can even ask yourself: is this an automatic pilot that feels so natural, I don’t even notice it?
Perhaps this automatic pilot is saying painful things. Or perhaps something else is causing you pain in your life. This can be physical pain, or emotional disturbance or something situational in your life. Let it become present within you. Notice what happens within your body and mind, what kinds of changes it may precipitate within your physiology, within your nervous system; within your emotions. Notice what happens to your breath – does it automatically change? Again, refrain from judging, just be very aware and present, tracking all the changes within your experience that simply thinking about this pain brings forward.
At the same time that you continue to hold this painful challenge in your awareness, begin to call forth a feeling of kindness. Take your time here, it may feel very challenging so go slowly and gently. Take your time and feel your way into an experience of kindness. If this feels impossible or you don’t know how to begin, then try just imaging the word “kindness” repeating again and again. Kindness. Kindness. Perhaps an image comes forward that evokes a feeling of kindness. Perhaps a smell. A memory. Explore whatever is helpful in bringing forward a sensation or experience of kindness.
Allow and accept whatever comes forward.
And now, consciously and with great awareness, turn the light and energy of this kindness directly towards where you feel pain. Slow your breathing down and lengthen your exhales, as you breathe kindness in and around this pain. Softly, gently, easing kindness between all the hard places, into the tiniest of spaces within the pain. If you feel resistance coming up, breathe kindness there, as well. Meet every aspect of the pain, of your experience, with kindness. Let it be a balm to whatever comes up. There is nothing this kindness cannot encompass.
You may notice that the tendency to pain will rise up and all sorts of thoughts may be running through your mind but again and again, return to the kindness. Smell the forest, breathe the cloud, feel the warmth of the blanket, or keep repeating the word “kindness” in the face of all opposition. Feel yourself expanding to hold both the pain and the kindness, without needing either to win over the other. To simply hold the space for it all, without judging, without needing anything to disappear. To allow whatever the experience is, as you sit in kindness to all current manifestation.
And now, no matter where you are in this process, whether struggling or peaceful, let go of any further efforting and simply rest in the moment. Relax and be with yourself in a kindly way, no matter where you are or what you are experiencing. Extend the kindness to yourself, for simply taking this time; for simply being alive!
You can stay sitting in kindness for as long as you like but when you are ready or need to return to the outside world, place your hands over your heart and on your next 3 exhales, hum right from that spot. As you hum, be open to the kindness as a living energy continuing to infuse the places that hurt, the parts that feel pain. Feel the resonance of the humming and the kindness beyond the story of your pain, beyond any story of its source or cause, beyond any need to control or deny or vanquish it. While it may be a chapter in the long, rich story of your life, it is hardly the whole story.
Rest in the kindness. Project it forward into your day, into moments where you might become more fixated on the pain and instead surround those moments with the energy of this kindness. For beyond all the stories, is this kindness. This kindness is You.